Do You Love Yourself #35

[00:00:01] Speaker A: Sacred Life. Sacred Life. Life. The sacred life. Living a life. Living a life. Living, Living. Living a life. The sacred, Sacred. What up? What up? This Your boy twisted the pearl. [00:00:25] Speaker B: And Anna Johnson, owner of Overcoming Daily. [00:00:28] Speaker A: Welcome to the Sacred Life podcast, where we'll be discussing life, relationships, business, the. [00:00:33] Speaker B: Bible, and of course, how to live the sacred life. [00:00:37] Speaker A: What's happening, people? [00:00:39] Speaker B: Today's topic is do you love yourself? [00:00:43] Speaker A: Do you love yourself? So we're going to dive into that, touch on different perspectives of what we consider loving yourself. How do you love yourself? Are you abusing yourself? [00:00:56] Speaker B: And what does God say about loving yourself? [00:00:58] Speaker A: What does God say about. That's the most important thing. Right, right, right. So, Ms. Johnson, you been good? [00:01:04] Speaker B: I'm great. [00:01:05] Speaker A: All right, so listen, if you're just tapping into the Sacred Life podcast, be sure to check below. Follow us on TikTok, on Instagram and on, we know, Facebook. But yeah, on social media is the Sacred Life podcast. All right, so you want to open this up with prayer? [00:01:24] Speaker B: Sure. [00:01:24] Speaker A: Let's dive in. [00:01:26] Speaker B: Father. Father, we thank you. We praise you and we give you the glory. Father. Father, we welcome you into this platform today. Father, we pray that your wor would just. That it would flow, that it would overflow, and that would impact each and every listener or watcher on the podcast today. Father, what do you have to say to your people today? Father, we welcome you in in your beloved son's name. We pray in Yeshua's name. Amen. And amen. [00:01:50] Speaker A: Hallelujah. All right, so are you loving yourself? Deep question. [00:01:58] Speaker B: Yeah, you know, do you want to talk about the inspiration behind the topic? Let's talk about the inspiration. So in I, you know, I have the 365 consecutive days of overcoming community, okay, My Facebook community, and every day I've been doing declarations. And by the way, today's day 208. I know. [00:02:17] Speaker A: And if you're interested in joining the 365, I'm gonna have a link down here below. So check it out, because she goes on daily and posts daily lives. Well, lives, inspiration, videos and, yes, declarations, PDFs and everything. You know, I mean, so. [00:02:34] Speaker B: So, you know, we've been speaking the name of Yeshua over our relationships. And, you know, a few days ago, we spoke the name of Yeshua over. Over our minds and our bodies and over our parents and our relationship with our parents and over our relationship with Father God. You know, and today I'm sitting out, you know, meditating about what should I talk about today? And it was, well, speak the Name of Yeshua over your relations with yourself. [00:03:07] Speaker A: Okay, okay. [00:03:09] Speaker B: Yeah. So that's the inspiration behind. That's where it began. [00:03:12] Speaker A: So over speaking name of Yeshua over yourself. [00:03:16] Speaker B: And what. Well, and before we go, that. What does that mean? Like, you know, what does that mean? To speak Yeshua over our. Over anything. Yeah, what does that mean? To speak Yeshua over anything? [00:03:30] Speaker A: What does it mean? [00:03:30] Speaker B: Yeah, what does it mean? Mr. Johnson doesn't like on the spot. [00:03:35] Speaker A: Questions, but so what I'm thinking is that it means to do everything unto him is like, keep him at the forefront of. [00:03:43] Speaker B: Well, yeah, but usually when you speak the name of Yeshua, like when you, you know, when Yeshua sent people out, he sent them out and he said, you know, you go in, you're going in his name, and that his name will cast out, you know, you're able to bring forth healing. You're able to cast out demons in the name. Right, right. So Yeshua's name represents liberty and freedom. It represents healing. O and so when you're speaking the name of Yeshua over yourself, you know, or over your relationship with yourself, maybe you're in a relationship, an idolatrous relationship with yourself for yourself, worshiping, or maybe you're in a relationship with yourself where you hate yourself, you're rejecting yourself, you're harsh towards yourself, and you need to be liberated from that. Yeah. [00:04:34] Speaker A: Okay. [00:04:35] Speaker B: And so, you know, let's. Let's just talk about the sacred life and what it means to love yourself. Well, let me ask you, Mr. Johnson, because you've not watched today's declaration, but, you know, do. How do you feel like you love yourself? [00:04:50] Speaker A: Oh, I feel I love myself Now, Do I beat myself up at times? Yeah. [00:04:55] Speaker B: Do you love yourself scripturally is the question. And that's just something for you to ponder. And I would actually encourage everybody that's listening to this to think about, do I love myself scripturally or am I getting tongue tied, perpetuating. Am I perpetuating a message about myself that is not loving that maybe I developed? Maybe it was planted in childhood. Maybe, you know, maybe I am trying to gain love and respect for myself from myself, if that makes sense. So. So, like, I love myself when I love myself and I accept myself when I lose £50. I love myself and I accept myself when I make X amount of dollars. [00:05:40] Speaker A: Right. [00:05:40] Speaker B: I love myself and accept myself when I have that life partner. [00:05:44] Speaker A: So. So that wouldn't be considered like having standards for yourself, like setting standards. And then it's like, you know, I mean, I Not saying, I love myself, I love myself more or. [00:05:54] Speaker B: Exactly. Because we're called to do what? Scripturally, what are we called to do? You can fill any love ourselves. Yeah, but where is that in Scripture Corinthians? Oh, you're going to go straight to the book, huh? [00:06:08] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:06:09] Speaker B: Oh, just give me the verbiage. Like, what is scripture telling you. [00:06:13] Speaker A: Lord, your God before soul. [00:06:17] Speaker B: Yes. And the second is like, love your. [00:06:20] Speaker A: Neighbor as you love yourself. [00:06:22] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. And so a lot of times we focus on loving. [00:06:24] Speaker A: First Corinthians 13. [00:06:26] Speaker B: Well, go ahead and look it up, because you talk. Okay, I know what you're. I know where you're going. Go ahead and look it up. So you know Scripture, Yeshua himself, Christ himself commanded, he gave the instructions that we are to love the Lord our God with all our heart, mind and soul. And the second is likened to it. And the commandment is to love our neighbor as ourselves. [00:06:45] Speaker A: Right. [00:06:45] Speaker B: So we're not loving ourselves. How well are we loving our neighbor? And so there's very. There's valuable and vital relationships and foundational relationships that we encounter in our lifetime. Right, Right. And one of those, first and foremost, the most valuable and vital relationship is actually our relationship with Father God. Okay. And then we. Our next relationship that we see, physical relationship that we see is we see that with our parents, and then it's our relationship with ourselves. [00:07:18] Speaker A: Right. Now, I gave the first Corinthians 13 is love is patient, love is kind. To love your neighbor as itself is Mark 12:31. It's a Matthew as well, love your neighbor as yourself. So there's no command greater than these. [00:07:32] Speaker B: Right. [00:07:32] Speaker A: So. [00:07:33] Speaker B: Right. [00:07:33] Speaker A: And so, you know Mark 12:31 and Matthew 22:39. [00:07:39] Speaker B: Mm. So, you know, I think we are commanded to love others, therefore we must love ourselves. [00:07:46] Speaker A: Right? Right. [00:07:47] Speaker B: And if we don't love ourselves, we won't even be fully equipped to love others. [00:07:52] Speaker A: Do you think that we should love ourselves more? Because think about it. It's like, what did they say? How can you love. How can you love someone else if you don't know how to love yourself? [00:08:03] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:08:04] Speaker A: Right. [00:08:05] Speaker B: But I wouldn't say more because it says, as Scripture tells us, to love our neighbor as ourselves. Now we are. I think it's Paul that says in one of the writings about, you know, treating or treating others as if they were better than you or something to that effect. You know what Scripture? Looking at others as if they. But that doesn't mean that we can love ourselves and not deflate or bring people low. [00:08:31] Speaker A: Right. [00:08:33] Speaker B: And we can love ourselves and do the same. Do you understand what I'm saying? Like, we don't have to be small in order to love others and we don't have to be big in order to love each other others. We just need to love ourselves. [00:08:45] Speaker A: Gotcha. [00:08:46] Speaker B: And so a lot of times what people do is they have a false love. It's not true. [00:08:50] Speaker A: So what we're giving. Hit yourself at it. Are you loving yourself? Do you love yourself? You know, that's a good point. And so our scriptures that we're touching on was Matthew and Mark. Those are the two, right? Mark 12:31. [00:09:10] Speaker B: Right. [00:09:11] Speaker A: Love your neighbor as you love yourself. [00:09:14] Speaker B: So if you don't have self love, how well are you going to do that? [00:09:17] Speaker A: Right? [00:09:18] Speaker B: And how do you love yourself? So, you know, one of the things that's really coming to me is that, you know, we, we have to be careful. You know, we are, we're a sacred society. We're meant to live a sacred life. And this culture, you know, scripture says that, you know, we're to, we're a new creation in Yeshua and that we are not, we are to keep unstained from this world, but this world comes after us. It comes after us. It tries to impose things. And so our ideal self love in this culture, in this culture is totally messed up. [00:09:52] Speaker A: It's hard to love this culture. It's just everything that's going on, how crazy people are acting. [00:09:58] Speaker B: Yeah, but we're talking about self love. Okay, you're getting ready, you're getting ready to squirrel. You're getting ready to squirrel. So you know, self love, you know, this culture, when this culture talks about self love, what does that look like? [00:10:12] Speaker A: Selfishness, Pretty much. [00:10:15] Speaker B: It's really not love at all. [00:10:16] Speaker A: No, that's a, it's selfishness. [00:10:18] Speaker B: So, you know, in this world, you will see, in this world, everything is. [00:10:21] Speaker A: Me, me, me, I. [00:10:23] Speaker B: But is that self love? Well, the thing we have to ask ourselves is, are we loving ourselves in a holy way? And do we even know what that means? As a sacred society, we're called to live life sacred. We're called to agree with what God's word says about us. And so, you know, what does that look like? To love ourselves in a sacred way. [00:10:46] Speaker A: In a holy way, A sacred way. [00:10:48] Speaker B: What does that look like? [00:10:49] Speaker A: It's interesting. Is that, that's a question you're asking me just in general. So, yeah, what does it look like? You want to give some examples of what it looked like? [00:11:05] Speaker B: Well, it looks like one thing actually Like Messiah? No. Well, it looks like us seeing ourselves the way that God sees us. [00:11:16] Speaker A: Okay. [00:11:17] Speaker B: He sees the redeemed us. He sees our value because he created us. He sees, he sees Yeshua when he sees us for those who are followers and believers of Yeshua. So when we practice self hatred and self rejection, we are rejecting the very, the very person that Christ has accepted. [00:11:41] Speaker A: Pretty much like the God in us, you know, I mean, because he's in us. So it's like we're give me. [00:11:48] Speaker B: But humanity was created in his image. [00:11:51] Speaker A: Right? Okay. [00:11:55] Speaker B: So you know, living the sacred life is about learning to love yourself in a holy way. It's not about, you know, there, you've got to get it right. Because some people self love can. If we're not, it's not love at all. But some people think self love can. It can be like idolatry and that's not love. To idolize yourself is not to love yourself because that is actually going to cause harm to you. [00:12:20] Speaker A: Right. See that's what I was saying about the narcissistic. Narcissisticness. [00:12:25] Speaker B: I don't know. [00:12:25] Speaker A: That's where. [00:12:26] Speaker B: Narcissism. [00:12:26] Speaker A: Yeah, that's where the, the pride kicks in. You know what I'm saying? You have that problem, like the focus is me and you're the forefront of everything or you're, you know what I'm saying? It's more focused on you. So. Yeah. [00:12:41] Speaker B: So you know, we're not going to be able to love others until we love ourselves. Until we see ourselves the way that Christ sees us. [00:12:48] Speaker A: Right. [00:12:49] Speaker B: He's redeemed us. He's chosen us. He's called us. He loves us. God loves us with an everlasting love. And if we, when we actually practice self hatred or self rejection, we are rejecting and hating the very, the very person that God has accepted and loved. [00:13:11] Speaker A: So I want to say a fine line. So like, what would be the line between like the. Not self hatred but being hard or harsh on yourself? [00:13:25] Speaker B: Critical. [00:13:25] Speaker A: Yeah, critical. There you go. Yeah. Like being very critical of yourself because at some point we do need, we do need to be critical of ourselves. Right? Like we need, we. [00:13:36] Speaker B: We do need to go from glory to glory. We do need to. [00:13:41] Speaker A: What does that mean? [00:13:43] Speaker B: Going from glory to glory? [00:13:44] Speaker A: Yes. What does that mean? [00:13:45] Speaker B: It means that we'll the God likeness. That what God. God's work in us. It just. It grows. It grows. It grows. It doesn't ever. It's not stagnant. The, the light. When God is working in us. That's Going to, from glory to glory, we. [00:14:01] Speaker A: So how would I, how would I for instance like be harsh? How would I fine tune myself like you know, saying be strict with myself but not being self hatred. [00:14:12] Speaker B: Well we discipline ourselves in love. Everything needs to be done in love. So you know, in love. So it's. You're not going to encourage yourself by calling yourself a loser. That's not love. [00:14:29] Speaker A: Okay? [00:14:30] Speaker B: Because you are a victor in Christ, you're a victor in Yeshua. So to say, to tell yourself you're a loser and that you're fat or that you're ugly. Those things are not self love. [00:14:42] Speaker A: What if it's true? That's okay, I'm going use me like I'm, like I'm a fat boy. You'd be like don't call yourself fam. Like I'm a fat boy. That's not being self hatred of myself. [00:14:58] Speaker B: I don't know that. I mean, I don't know. [00:15:00] Speaker A: You know, I mean we have to. [00:15:01] Speaker B: Be careful what we identify with. We honestly we're supposed to identify with the person of Yeshua. That is who we're supposed to identify and that's who we're supposed to follow. And not one time that I can recall in scripture where you see Yeshua having negative self talk. [00:15:18] Speaker A: But what defines it being negative? That's, that's what I'm getting at. What defines it being negative or he. [00:15:23] Speaker B: Doesn'T agree with the word of God? [00:15:27] Speaker A: I don't know, I guess you get what I'm saying? So, so for me saying I'm a. [00:15:32] Speaker B: Fat boy, how is that, how does that serve God? [00:15:34] Speaker A: But how does it disagree with the word of God? [00:15:37] Speaker B: So you identify with this carnal man. [00:15:39] Speaker A: I'm saying what I am, that no I ain't skinny. You're so you see descriptions either black or white. So for, I mean and the reason I'm getting this is because we. [00:15:49] Speaker B: It doesn't matter whether you talk before, it's like it doesn't matter whether you're happy set, whether you're whatever, whatever. The question is are you a heavy sale? You know, whether you're thin, it doesn't matter what you look like. That doesn't matter. The question is, is are you loving yourself at every stage in every season in your life? So calling yourself a few fat boy. Why are you saying you're a fat boy? Is it because part of you, you hate that? [00:16:13] Speaker A: But see, that's what I'm saying. It's like some people look at it, I don't see that as Being the hate. It's just saying, does God, If I was slim, I'd be like, yeah, I'm skinny. That's not how. Why, why is that not looked at as being negative? But when I say I'm a fat boy, that's looked at as being negative. [00:16:29] Speaker B: Because being fat in America isn't. I mean, fat. Fat is not looked at as like, oh, that's a great thing. [00:16:34] Speaker A: Yeah, but that's other people. But that's what I'm saying. [00:16:37] Speaker B: You just. No, you ask. [00:16:38] Speaker A: So, yeah, what I'm saying, I feel it's a personal thing. That's why I was saying, how do you define what is too harsh or too. [00:16:44] Speaker B: I just told you. [00:16:46] Speaker A: Okay, listen, listen. [00:16:48] Speaker B: What is too harsh? Anything that doesn't agree with the word of God. Why? You know, we say things that agree with who God says we are. That's what we say. And when you say I'm a fat boy, what does that come with? I like to be. Maybe, maybe not for everybody. But what does that come with? It usually comes with a set of sins and a set of oppressions. Meaning I like my food a whole lot. You know, I like my food a whole lot. May come with some gluttony. It may come with some health issues. It may come with some things. So when you say that, when we say certain things, we could be hating ourselves. Okay, but that's not even what we're talking about, right, Mr. Johnson? Scroll again. [00:17:38] Speaker A: I didn't really screw. I was going to like the like. How do you define, like, what's too strict or too harsh or too hateful? So I wasn't scrolling. I was. That's what I was going at with it. So how do you define that? How? What. What determines that you do? [00:17:53] Speaker B: Well, we're talking about self love. I'm talking about. [00:17:59] Speaker A: Because we have to be like you. You have to be strict with yourself. Like, you have to be. You have to be disciplined. [00:18:04] Speaker B: Yeah, but you. Strictly strict. [00:18:06] Speaker A: Okay, how do you be disciplined if you don't get strict or straight on the street and narrow. Narrow something down. How do you. [00:18:13] Speaker B: You're thinking. You're thinking outwardly and not inwardly. Okay, so you're thinking Greek instead of Hebrew. You're focusing on the exterior man. I've got to make him behave. I've got to. And don't get me wrong, we have to discipline. But what if you thought correctly and out of that holy thinking, you did the other things? If I know that something is valuable, I'm more likely to honor it, treat it with respect and do the things I'm supposed to do. Okay, so for example, people that may. Some people, it's not everybody, some people just have medical conditions, but some people may have issues with food or any type of addiction. And you know, they are really. It's self hatred because you're destroying yourself. [00:19:15] Speaker A: Hmm. [00:19:18] Speaker B: You don't really know your value if you knew how. But you know, for example, if I, you know, gave you a million dollars, would you just put it in a bag and set it out there and leave it down, leave it out in the road? No, you'd value it. You'd keep it in a safe place. And so that's the thing. The enemy loves it when we don't know our value and we don't love ourselves. And so we need to actually be our own best friends, friend. We need to apologize to ourselves for all the negative things we've said to ourselves. We are in a relationship with ourselves. [00:19:50] Speaker A: Gotcha. [00:19:51] Speaker B: And until you like get a handle on that relationship with yourself, it's going to impact your other relationships. If you can't show up for yourself, guess what, you're not going to be able to show up for other people. [00:20:04] Speaker A: And yeah, and that goes back to what I was saying earlier about how can you love others if you can't love yourself? [00:20:09] Speaker B: Exactly first. So yeah, and how can you love yourself unless you get to, unless you know the person that the person which is God himself, who is love. [00:20:20] Speaker A: Gotcha. [00:20:21] Speaker B: Now God says you are, you know, that he, that you're fearfully and wonderfully made, that he's loved you with an everlasting love, that he has redeemed you, that you've been accepted, you've been called, you've been chosen. And so when we reject ourselves, we are, we're actually, we're going against, we're going in disagreeing with God. So a lot of people say, I love myself When I lose £40, I'll accept myself when I get £20. But we have to remember that when Yeshua, he died while we were yet in sin. [00:20:55] Speaker A: So he loved us. [00:20:55] Speaker B: He loved us. He loved us even before he covered us. Right when we were totally exposed with everything. He covered us so that there's a lesson there for us to love ourselves in every season and love, love. You speak the truth to yourself in love. You encourage yourself. You don't. Yes, we have to wrestle the flesh and get it under control, but we should be renewing our mind, minds and loving ourselves. We, from what we look at, we respect and honor the vessel that abba's made us, you know, if it's all driven by love, you know, and a lot of times we. It comes from early childhood where maybe we've had parents that have been very critical, and they tell us how to build ourselves by tearing ourselves down. And I would say that we can build ourselves up by agreeing with God about who he says we are. When we start agreeing with God, other things are just gonna fall off. So maybe you were rejected as a child in school. It doesn't matter anymore because you agree with God. What God says that you're fearfully and wonderfully made. [00:22:15] Speaker A: Okay. [00:22:15] Speaker B: You know, same thing. You know, same thing about how you love yourself. You know, like, that's the other thing, and that's a whole nother podcast in itself. But, like, how do you love yourself? Do you love yourself by. You know, our culture says, oh, you deserve a cup of coffee. Not that that's wrong, but this. But then every time to feel better, what are you going for? You're going to coffee. Oh, you deserve, you know, to get your nails done. You deserve to buy yourself this. You. But all these things actually treat. What part of us treats the. The outer man. [00:22:49] Speaker A: Right? [00:22:49] Speaker B: Not the inner man. That's who it serves. [00:22:55] Speaker A: See, I was thinking about something. I was thinking how to word it, but without with it making sense. So with us loving ourselves, when we come to. We're a new creation, right. So we have to kill the flesh. Right. The old man must die. [00:23:16] Speaker B: Renewing the mind. Yeah, yeah. Crystallifying the flesh. Yeah. [00:23:20] Speaker A: Right. So completely forgot where I was going with that. [00:23:24] Speaker B: You're talking about self love. [00:23:25] Speaker A: Self love. [00:23:26] Speaker B: Yeah, but I mean, you know, we'll just do an exercise. What's your self talk like? [00:23:31] Speaker A: Oh, see you. [00:23:33] Speaker B: No, just do it. And this, you can. This is an exercise. So if y' all are listening or watching, do the exercise. What does my self talk like 80% of the time? [00:23:42] Speaker A: It depends on the day, what I'm. [00:23:44] Speaker B: Feeling 80% of the time. You have a pattern. I assure you. You have a pattern in your self talk. [00:23:50] Speaker A: Okay, I'm sick of this stuff. [00:23:52] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:23:54] Speaker A: Tired of going through this crap. [00:23:55] Speaker B: Do you get frustrated with yourself? Are you harsh towards yourself? Or do you. Or do. And some of you may be too soft on yourself. What I mean by soft is like, you may be an enabling. You making excuses up front for you instead of pointing in the direction that you need to go. Right now, the people that are in my community, the people that I coach, are usually people that are harsh on themselves. Matter of Fact, a lot of them wrestle with perfectionism, so they're more like to take responsibility for things that are not their responsibility and be very harsh on themselves. [00:24:30] Speaker A: I just thought about something without putting names of people out there, like a situation. We talked about it other night. This literally just came to me. So actually it was last night. So someone not loving themselves could also be someone who is allowing themselves to go through certain things with other people. [00:24:52] Speaker B: Yes. [00:24:52] Speaker A: And not really respecting themselves and then making excuses for enabling. Enabling for the situation and things that they're going through. [00:25:01] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:25:01] Speaker A: So can you touch on that without. [00:25:03] Speaker B: Yeah, well, and that's the other thing is, is like, you know, if you don't. If you don't love yourself. We have. Loving ourselves is about what is in the. Having a. What. We're talking about two things here because we're talking about relationship with self. Well, yeah, I guess it's the same thing, you know, when you're in a relationship with self, a holy relationship with self meanings that self awareness of who you are and who. Well, who you are in Yeshua, knowing your value. And we have a duty to guard our hearts. [00:25:35] Speaker A: Right. Right. [00:25:35] Speaker B: And protect our minds. We have a duty to. [00:25:38] Speaker A: That. [00:25:39] Speaker B: We have a duty to. Scripture tells us we have a duty about choosing our relationships. And all of that should come out of love. Love for God the Father, love for ourselves and love for others. You're not loving anybody by allowing them to do unholy things to you. That's not love. Now, it's not an absolute. There are situations where maybe someone's heart needs to be. They. They need to see that humility. But you better utilize the Holy Spirit because being in an abusive relationship. [00:26:12] Speaker A: Right. And it could be. You could be getting abused. And it's not. We're not talking like physically or verbally abused, but your abuse could be being used. Being used. Yeah. And you can't see it as you being used. You think it's like you being loved and. [00:26:29] Speaker B: Yeah. So you definitely want to learn to love yourself so that you can love others. [00:26:33] Speaker A: Right. [00:26:34] Speaker B: You know, you don't want to enable people to do evil towards you or towards others or towards themselves. And when you do evil towards others, you've done evil towards yourself because you're going to suffer the consequence of that behavior. So, yeah. So, you know, let's. Do you love yourself? And in the way that you're loving yourself, is it sacred and true love? True love. Truly loving yourself is to see yourself and honor yourself in the way that God sees you and honors you. [00:27:05] Speaker A: Yes. [00:27:06] Speaker B: Love is patient. Are you patient with yourself? Love is kind. Love is long suffering, it is enduring, it is gentle. What are you saying to yourself about yourself? What kind of relationship are you having? And are you enabling some people? Are you? And you can't handle the truth. The truth seems a little abrasive for you. And so then you can't tell yourself the truth. [00:27:32] Speaker A: Yeah, truth is too harsh for you. [00:27:34] Speaker B: And then some. Maybe you can't deliver the truth in love and you beat yourself up. [00:27:41] Speaker A: I think that's what I struggle at, is dealing the truth in love. [00:27:44] Speaker B: In love. Yes. [00:27:45] Speaker A: That's my struggle. So, you know, with me or others, like, yeah, just deliver. [00:27:49] Speaker B: Yeah, so don't. You're going to deliver the truth, you better make sure you're delivering it with love. [00:27:54] Speaker A: I think I'm pretty. I'm a lot better with it. But it's still. [00:27:58] Speaker B: Yeah, but you know, love is gentle, it is kind, it is patient, it's long suffering. And we need to remember these things. And all of us need to get a good handle on what it is really. What scripturally is love? Because this world is. Doing it paints a picture of love that is not biblical. [00:28:16] Speaker A: Right, folks? So, yeah, yeah. [00:28:21] Speaker B: So, you know, the question is, do you love yourself? And are you loving yourself the way that God wants you to love yourself? You know, and. And part of that is recognizing who you are and who you are. You're a follower of Christ, you're a follower of Yeshua. So you're fearfully and wonderfully made. And you can love yourself and not deflate others or inflate yourself. You can love. You can love yourself and love others. So a lot of times in our culture, it's like, if I love myself, that means everybody's down here. It's very competitive. But. Or if I love others and that means I have to go down, down, like, it's this. No, I can love myself like a seesaw type thing, and I can love others. [00:29:07] Speaker A: Right. [00:29:07] Speaker B: And we're equally important. Yeah, we're equally important. [00:29:11] Speaker A: It's a nice balance. [00:29:12] Speaker B: Equally important. So I would encourage everybody to speak the name of Yeshua over your relationship with yourself. You need to be set free from some critical thoughts that you have about yourself. You need to love yourself in the season. You need to encourage yourself. Love has the power to transform you in an empowering and exp. I want to say exponential, but there's a different. There's another word for that. [00:29:41] Speaker A: Expeditiously. [00:29:41] Speaker B: No, I was thinking about, like, thank you, Joe Clark. [00:29:44] Speaker A: Lean on the expedition do it expeditiously, son. [00:29:47] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, okay, I'm sorry. But love can, can grow us. The love of God can grow us. And you know, I mean, who wants to see their child in the mirror telling themselves they're fat, ugly, they hate themselves, nobody likes them, they wish. That is the. Well, how many followers of Yeshua do it and don't even realize it? [00:30:09] Speaker A: A lot. A large majority. A large majority. [00:30:16] Speaker B: And you know what? I think today God is calling us. He's calling us to learn to love ourselves in the way that he loves us. And out of that self love we will find ourselves loving others in a holy way. So we need to relook at all of this about what does it mean to love ourselves? We are called to love ourselves because if we're called to love others as ourself, that means we're called to love ourselves. And we must see ourselves as God sees us. And so if you've suffered from some sort of injury from your parents or from any, from even a spouse or whatever, it's time to be in disagreement with the hate talk. Turn it off and turn on the love talk. And the love talk tells the truth and it does not enable self destructive behavior. So we'll go back to goodness. It's been over 10 years, probably a time where you, you were frustrated with your weight, you remember that? And you abused yourself. You remember? [00:31:16] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:16] Speaker B: You want to tell our listeners that wasn't self love? You don't have to share if you don't want to. [00:31:23] Speaker A: Yeah, I mean, you know, I don't care. No, it wasn't. Was that the one where I shaved? [00:31:28] Speaker B: Yes. You punished yourself because you gained weight. [00:31:33] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:34] Speaker B: You remember that a lot. [00:31:35] Speaker A: I gained a lot of weight and I was mad so I looked in the mirror. Yes, angry. I shaved my hair. I shaved my. [00:31:44] Speaker B: You shaved your beard. [00:31:45] Speaker A: You shaved your everything. [00:31:47] Speaker B: Your hair on your hair. [00:31:48] Speaker A: What was I accomplishing by doing that? [00:31:51] Speaker B: You were being hard on yourself and then you looked in the mirror and you told yourself you were fat and ugly. Pretty much, yeah. Yeah. [00:32:02] Speaker A: That was a long time ago. [00:32:02] Speaker B: Yes, a long time ago. And what did that change? [00:32:05] Speaker A: Nothing. It ain't changed nothing. Wasted my time. [00:32:10] Speaker B: But what if you would have cleaned yourself up like you know, maybe did an edge up or give yourself a haircut and put on some clothes and said, you know what, you're not the best version of you right now, but we're gonna do this and set some and encourage yourself. [00:32:28] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:32:32] Speaker B: And I hate to say it like sometimes hating yourself lets you off the hook. [00:32:41] Speaker A: Explain. [00:32:41] Speaker B: Loving requires you to take positive action in a. In a negative world. It's not easy. [00:32:49] Speaker A: Said it again. [00:32:51] Speaker B: Sometimes it's easier to hate yourself. If you hate yourself, then you don't have. You can just do nothing. Just continue at the state that you're at. Love is an action that always requires a forward movement. [00:33:02] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. [00:33:03] Speaker B: It always requires form and forward movement, and it always requires increase. [00:33:08] Speaker A: That's what we always say. Love is an action. We always tell the kids that. Love is an action. [00:33:12] Speaker B: Yeah. And it's also a language. [00:33:15] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:33:16] Speaker B: It's a person. [00:33:19] Speaker A: What does that action looks like? Look like? So the love towards yourself, what does it look like? What action? [00:33:25] Speaker B: And what is it saying? [00:33:26] Speaker A: What is it saying? [00:33:28] Speaker B: It'll say, you know, you can do. I do believe that, you know, we go from glory to glory. And I do believe that God calls us to not be stagnant, but to ever increase. He said you told Adam and Eve in the beginning to subdue and have dominion and multiply. Right, Right. So I believe that we are called to multiply. [00:33:48] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:33:49] Speaker B: But hatred, it always puts us in. [00:33:52] Speaker A: The deficit, in the negative facts. [00:33:55] Speaker B: Yeah. So, yeah, I think that's it for today. [00:34:00] Speaker A: So. All right, Secret society, we thank y' all for tuning in. Finance everywhere. Spotify, YouTube, iTunes, sacred life podcast. [00:34:15] Speaker B: Yeah. And one other thing is, is that, parents, if you don't love yourself, how will you be able to teach your children how to love themselves? They will absorb your language bars. So. So we're. [00:34:32] Speaker A: Come, let's do it. Till next time. Live life. Sacred Peace. [00:34:37] Speaker B: Shalom. [00:34:38] Speaker A: Living a life. The sacred, sacred.