Entitlement | The Sacred Life Podcast #39

[00:00:00] Speaker A: So a lot of times, instead of walking in gratitude, people have a tendency to feel entitled to certain things. [00:00:11] Speaker B: It's all about you. And it's all about honoring self. Damages relationships, you see it damage marriages, you become more like a tumor than you do an actual moving part. [00:00:27] Speaker A: Sacred life. Sacred life. Living the life that's sacred. Sacred, Sacred Warriors. What's happening? What's happening? This your boy Tweetin, the owner of. [00:00:52] Speaker B: Sacred Apparel, and Anna Johnson, the owner of Overcoming Daily. [00:00:56] Speaker A: Welcome to the Sacred Life podcast, where we'll be discussing life, relationships, business, the. [00:01:02] Speaker B: Bible, and of course, how to live the sacred life. [00:01:05] Speaker A: Ms. Johnson, what's happening? [00:01:08] Speaker B: Not a lot. [00:01:09] Speaker A: Not a lot. Yeah, you're doing. I'm doing great. [00:01:11] Speaker B: Now, let me. There's a whole lot happening. [00:01:13] Speaker A: Yes, there is. [00:01:14] Speaker B: I'm not gonna jump into. [00:01:15] Speaker A: Yeah, we're not. We're not going to. This is great. Things are great. Things are great. So. And if you notice, when I came in, I said sacred Warriors. Now, not too many of you know this, but we made the change from Sacred Society to Sacred Warriors. Now, why, some people may ask, you care to indulge in that? Or why don't you? Go ahead. Okay. So we've been a society since we started. We've been the sacred society, secret society. But the past couple of weeks, maybe even a couple of months, we've been talking about war and warriors and different things and how, like, a lot of believers are going through things. So it's a lot of prayer going on, a lot of prayer warriors. And, you know, we're constantly at war in this walk. So I'm like, you know what? We are sacred warriors. [00:02:04] Speaker B: We better be. [00:02:05] Speaker A: We are sacred warriors because we're always at one. We're supposed to be standing hand in hand with our brothers and sisters that are needing us to be there to war with them, to help them. You know what I'm saying? So officially, we are the Secret Warriors. All right. Now, we may still slip on say, society every now and then, but, you know, with the Secret Warriors. All right, all right. So today's topic is. [00:02:27] Speaker B: What is today's topic? [00:02:28] Speaker A: Entitlement. [00:02:30] Speaker B: Oh, yes. How could. I forgot. [00:02:32] Speaker A: Yeah, Entitlement. So we're going to be talking about feeling entitled. What's behind entitlement? Pride and humility. Not having humility, not being humble. We're going to sneak. Take a sneak peek into some of those things to see if we have unrealistic expectations from people and things. So, yeah, we're gonna dive into it. [00:02:58] Speaker B: Entitlement. [00:02:59] Speaker A: Yes. Anything you Want to add towards that? [00:03:01] Speaker B: No, I'll let you take the lead. Oh, Ms. Johnson, I tell you, she know entitlement. So. Okay. Where are you going with this? [00:03:10] Speaker A: Wherever we, wherever we go, we just. [00:03:12] Speaker B: Going to chalk it up, start with prayer, of course. And. Yeah. [00:03:14] Speaker A: Want to lead us? [00:03:15] Speaker B: Sure. Father, Father God, we thank you. We praise you and we give you the glory. Father, we thank you for your son Yeshua. We thank you for the ability to come forth to you in, in, in prayer and to know that you hear our prayers. Father. And Father, we just welcome you to this podcast that you just that your word would spring forth. And we pray for everyone, all the listeners, Father, that they would be blessed by this content. We thank you in Yeshua's name. Amen. [00:03:42] Speaker A: Amen. And Amen. [00:03:43] Speaker B: Amen. [00:03:44] Speaker A: So a lot of times instead of walking in gratitude, people have a tendency to feel entitled to certain things, whether it's some examples, whether it's being entitled to something. [00:04:05] Speaker B: Yeah, well, you know, entitled is, you know, one I probably defining what we mean by entitled would be helpful. [00:04:14] Speaker A: Okay. [00:04:15] Speaker B: So you know, because the enemy, the enemy might say, you know, that we act like we're entitled, but when we're walking in confidence, so, you know, how do you discern the difference between being confident in God and standing ground for what God is giving? [00:04:31] Speaker A: That's a very good point. [00:04:32] Speaker B: And what's the difference between being entitled? [00:04:36] Speaker A: So what is the difference in. It was like how do, how do you determine? Like, and see, I do this a lot and so I've actually brought this to you before. It's like if, and I don't want to say deserve a blessing, but if I feel that I'm walking in a blessing or I'm going to be blessed, I mean, we all want to be blessed, you dig? We all want to be blessed. So at what point is you're wanting to be blessed? Like what we're saying being entitled, like, oh, I'm gonna get, I need a blessing, I want a blessing. You know, is that entitlement? [00:05:12] Speaker B: How do you determine is where it's all about you and it's all about honoring self and it's self focused. And I said, it's like, I said it in like three different ways. But entitlement is where you believe that you are the primary focus and that that is something you should receive. [00:05:35] Speaker A: So with the for saying that blessing, that's where the blessing helps, does good for nobody but you, right? Pretty much. [00:05:45] Speaker B: Well, yeah, I guess so where the focus is about you being blessed instead of you Being blessed to be. [00:05:50] Speaker A: To be a blessing. [00:05:51] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:05:51] Speaker A: To bless others. Yeah. Almost like our gifts and how we serve you. I mean, the reason we serve is because we want to be a blessing to others. So we use our gifts to be a blessing to someone else, you know, so the same is with our blessings. If you want a blessing, your blessing should pay off and bless someone else. [00:06:07] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:06:08] Speaker A: And I see a lot that. Things that we go through when we go through certain things and situations, that we aren't going through it for us. [00:06:14] Speaker B: Right. [00:06:15] Speaker A: We're going through it for somebody else. Because a lot of times somebody is watching us, and what we're going through turns out to be a testimony for somebody else. You know what I'm saying? [00:06:23] Speaker B: Yeah. And entitlement is. It's not about the. It's not about the community. It's not about community. It's not about other people. It's all always about self. And it's really hard to walk in love when you have a spirit of entitlement that's real. [00:06:38] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:06:39] Speaker B: We see this with even our kids, like, if they ever. You have one piece of. One piece of chicken on the table, and everyone at the table could come up with a reason why I deserve it. Because I'm the oldest chicken. Right. [00:06:54] Speaker A: Because I'm the oldest. Well, my piece was smaller than the other one, so I should get it because my piece is small. Everyone has a reasonable excuse. [00:07:01] Speaker B: And we see this also with, you know, like with abortion issues. With abortion or things. Things of that nature, like, you know, who. Who's entitled to live here. [00:07:15] Speaker A: Right. [00:07:16] Speaker B: Who's entitled. [00:07:16] Speaker A: And it becomes more about them than the life that they're carrying. The end of the. Whatever it is. [00:07:23] Speaker B: Yeah. And I mean, and you look in scripture, you know, here are some things. First thing about in Scripture. Who were people in scripture that had the spirit of entitlement upon them? You know, wow. We see. I mean, I would say Saul would have been. He would have some of that entitlement because he felt that the people should praise him more over David. [00:07:42] Speaker A: Yeah, that's true. [00:07:43] Speaker B: And that he felt like he was entitled to make decisions that. That superseded the. What God had told him. [00:07:51] Speaker A: Right, right. [00:07:53] Speaker B: You know, like. [00:07:55] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, that's a good. Right. And it was so costly because of that, you know, I mean. [00:08:01] Speaker B: Yeah, it was costly. And, you know, and then we see Eve feeling like she can make a decision to eat what she wants to eat. [00:08:12] Speaker A: Right. [00:08:12] Speaker B: And she had free will. She could. [00:08:14] Speaker A: She could. She did. [00:08:15] Speaker B: She took that and it backfired. [00:08:17] Speaker A: Right. Thanks, Eve. [00:08:20] Speaker B: Yeah. So I mean it could happen to any of us. [00:08:23] Speaker A: Yeah, that's real. [00:08:24] Speaker B: It could have happened to any of us. So. So, you know, that's as far as I think of entitlement. Entitlement damages relationships. You see a. Damage marriages. You see it damages. It can damage. [00:08:37] Speaker A: Entitlement is a very selfish, self centered. Self centered thing. A place to be. [00:08:42] Speaker B: It's, it's. It's idol. It's self idolatry some ways like. Oh, you know, and we see how it's not good. Think about people who are trying to lose weight. They'll be like, oh, you know, I deserve that piece of cake. Or I should be able to eat that fried chicken. My life story, that fried chicken. And not. [00:09:05] Speaker A: And not gain weight. You know what I mean? [00:09:07] Speaker B: And that focal point keeps you stuck. [00:09:09] Speaker A: Yeah. So should be able to eat chicken wings. [00:09:12] Speaker B: As much as some people that think they can cuss people out and they're entitled to that. Being foul. [00:09:18] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:09:20] Speaker B: Being foul. [00:09:21] Speaker A: I was racist way. I'm from so and so. We've always cursed. [00:09:24] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:09:25] Speaker A: Come on, start making excuses for. [00:09:28] Speaker B: You can see entitlement on the road. [00:09:32] Speaker A: They mean driving. I feel a shot with that one. Shots fired. [00:09:37] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Even though you had the right away. Why are you getting then that person pulled out in front of you or whatever. Why are you getting an attitude because you feel like you're entitled to that place, that, that positioning. [00:09:52] Speaker A: That's right. They shouldn't have pulled out in front of us. [00:09:54] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:09:55] Speaker A: You know. [00:09:55] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:09:56] Speaker A: So. [00:09:56] Speaker B: Yeah, I feel you so entitlement. When I think of entitlement, I don't think any. There's not. I don't see any positive thoughts. [00:10:02] Speaker A: Right. No. Narrowly neither one. [00:10:04] Speaker B: Now there is a difference and I think some people have to be aware of this because I don't really think entitlement is something that I wrestle with as a first. As a firstborn, somebody that's has been responsible for other people. So you know, there's the other side of this is where when God has said you are this your portion? And because you've been told that you're not entitled to anything that you may just let people take your stuff. [00:10:35] Speaker A: Oh my. [00:10:36] Speaker B: So that's a whole nother. A whole another side of it. [00:10:40] Speaker A: I'm telling you, with me, you got to be careful coming up. It was as a little kid. It was just me. [00:10:45] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:10:46] Speaker A: I was. [00:10:46] Speaker B: It was just me all about you. [00:10:48] Speaker A: It was all about me. So. But the thing is I shared a lot you. I mean I was very Given just very sharing. [00:10:57] Speaker B: Not because you had to. Well, you didn't have to. You didn't live with siblings like I didn't have to. [00:11:02] Speaker A: You're right. I didn't have to. But maybe that's just what they say, my nature. [00:11:06] Speaker B: It's real easy to do things when. [00:11:08] Speaker A: You don't have to, but when it's outside of just you, you know what I'm saying? When it's. You just naturally do it with others because it comes with, like, the blessing, because you want to see others happy, you enjoy sharing with others and seeing what it does for them. You know what I'm saying? That's putting outside of you for an only child to be able to do that. [00:11:29] Speaker B: Well, and I think the thing is, is that we are to be driven by love, charity, and that's in service. Charity and service. And. And so we have to be cautious as to who we. I say cautious but cognizant. Aware of, like, the people that we have in our circle. [00:11:52] Speaker A: Right. [00:11:53] Speaker B: That are closest to us. Because if you actually, I wrote in my journal, you'd seen that. Give more than you take. [00:11:59] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:12:01] Speaker B: So we have to be cognizant because if you are. And people that are. Have wrestled with entitlement, they're takers. They're not givers. They're usually not there. The only time they give is because they think they're going to get something. [00:12:15] Speaker A: Back or because someone asked them to give. Not. It wasn't voluntarily giving. [00:12:21] Speaker B: Yeah, it's not. Yeah, it's usually pressured or it serve. It's either pressured or it serves them. Yeah, it serves them so. And they may not even realize it, that they're operating like that. But I think a good rule of thumb for all of us is to try to give more than we take. [00:12:38] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:12:39] Speaker B: Our focal point should be on giving and not taking. [00:12:42] Speaker A: And like I was saying, I'm not putting out there, but a good way to look at some things is whatever you're a part of, ask yourself, what do you contribute to it? You know, because you remember we had a conversation, I wanted to ask somebody, what did they contribute to? Blake, you remember? So if you're a part of something, ask yourself, why are you a part of it? And what do you contribute to it? Are you contributing anything to it? You know what I'm saying? [00:13:10] Speaker B: Like, oh, yeah. Oh, yeah, I get it. So, you know, the. The point is, we come into the body of Christ, right? We become brides, we become part of the body, and we know just dealing with family and different things is that, you know, when you have that entitlement, you become more like a tumor to the fan, to the body, or to the family. [00:13:37] Speaker A: Wow. [00:13:37] Speaker B: You become more like a tumor than you do an actual moving part causing hardship on the rest of the body. This is true because entitlement will always demand its blood supply, but it will not release it back into the body. Wow. [00:13:53] Speaker A: You see that, Those analogies you'd be seeing. [00:13:55] Speaker B: Yeah, that's a really good picture. The picture that. Yeah, I was giving me. But you know, entitlement. And we don't want to be that. Yeah, we don't want to be that member. [00:14:04] Speaker A: Well, they call them blood suckers. [00:14:06] Speaker B: Yeah. Really what it is is imagine, Imagine if your leg was hauling, you know, your was hogging all the blood supply, what would happen to the rest of the body? [00:14:17] Speaker A: Right. [00:14:18] Speaker B: And so, you know, we see this in family systems and we unfortunately, you see it in the, in the body of Christ. People, they'll go to church, but then they don't want to put any money in the offering bowl. They don't want to put any money in the tithe or, or they don't. [00:14:31] Speaker A: Want to serve, don't want to give, or they're. [00:14:33] Speaker B: They're taking all the waters that the church offers or all the mints that the church is offering or taking all the things offering, but they're not. And they'll be like, they're entitled because that's their pastor and their pastor is supposed to be taking care of them. [00:14:47] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:14:49] Speaker B: So that's entitlement. So I mean, I think we all could benefit from looking to see if there's any entitlement mindset. [00:14:58] Speaker A: Right. I mean, really looking and see anywhere. [00:15:02] Speaker B: It could be hiding. It could be hiding. Maybe you feel like you're entitled on the road. Maybe you feel like you're entitled to at the workplace. And you know what? And sometimes you may be. And I hey, sometimes you may even have an entitlement as a child. Child of God, for prime example, like where you're like, well, you know, I'm a child of God and I shouldn't have to contend for this. [00:15:30] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:15:32] Speaker B: So God opens a door up for you and then you're like, well, I. [00:15:35] Speaker A: Should be able to just walk through this. [00:15:36] Speaker B: Yeah, well, I gotta fight for. But you're getting a lot of fl. Yeah, a lot of, lot of pushback. A lot of push back. So, you know, that's another thing, you know, I might go and buy my own. Man, there's so many messages. So Many different things that we can learn. Examples like, you know, I may go. We may go and buy the kids school clothes. [00:15:59] Speaker A: Right? [00:16:00] Speaker B: And. But they feel like we're entitled to wash them, fold them, hang them up, put them in the closet. [00:16:07] Speaker A: Not happening, Captain. Okay? He's like. [00:16:10] Speaker B: And you know, people do that in their relationship with God. You know, Christ said, hey, I've laid down my life, picked it back up, and I've sit at the right hand of God, of Father God. I'm sitting on the throne. Now you get up and overcome. [00:16:27] Speaker A: Right. [00:16:27] Speaker B: Be a warrior, as you said. [00:16:29] Speaker A: A warrior. Yeah. So, like, just because we got in doesn't mean. Yeah. I mean, you get the lounge. Game over. No. Is even more work. They got to be put in now. [00:16:38] Speaker B: So. Yeah, I mean, I think that. And the thing is, is I feel like I believe that the enemy probably put. That's one of the cards that he plays. He'll say something like, you shouldn't have to do all this. This should be easy for you. Yeah. Like, he will try to get you to feel entitled because people look at. [00:16:57] Speaker A: It almost like the. Not the final destination, but it's like, man, once I get this blasey blah, it's a rap. Well, but you get it, and then it's a whole nother ball game now, you know, so you got. It's even more that you got to do. [00:17:12] Speaker B: Well. Yeah. And you see that even when Yeshua was in the wilderness, he was trying to get Yeshua to use his. His abilities. [00:17:23] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:17:25] Speaker B: To serve who? Himself. Hint. To serve himself. [00:17:30] Speaker A: Yep. [00:17:32] Speaker B: So we have to be really careful. So what. What else did you have in mind with this entitlement? Let me. [00:17:36] Speaker A: Let me hit a couple of scriptures now. I got Philippians 2, verse 3 through 4. And it says, do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, rather in humility. Value others above yourselves. [00:17:53] Speaker B: Amen. [00:17:53] Speaker A: Not looking to your own interest, but each of you to the interest of others. You know, I'm saying that goes to like what we were saying in the beginning. Like, be a blessing to someone else. Serve others with your gifts. Whatever your gift is, serve someone. We all have gifts. Yes, we all have gifts. Now, you may not all know what it is. You may feel, well, I never had no gift. It could be what you least expect or something that you're always doing and are good at. But we all have gifts. You may need to tap into God and see what your gift is. But we all have gifts. And our gifts wasn't given to us. [00:18:34] Speaker B: For us, given to Serve. [00:18:36] Speaker A: Our gifts are given to us to serve others. Point blank. Period. You know? [00:18:41] Speaker B: Yeah. 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We know the fast lane and we know the slow lane and we know the moderate lane. Okay, we know the left lane is the fast lane. [00:20:51] Speaker B: But we send towards our side yourself and others and God. When we think that people should make everything, make things easy for us, when we think that they belong to us, that's when we become immature. [00:21:05] Speaker A: And you know, I just feel follow the rules if you notice the fast lane, okay, so you're your butt out the fast lane. Let me do my 75, 85 over here and you stay your 55. [00:21:15] Speaker B: But when they don't, does that entitle you? [00:21:18] Speaker A: No, not at all. Not at all. [00:21:20] Speaker B: And imagine, Imagine, out of all people, Yeshua, imagine if he. If he would have had an entitled mindset. [00:21:29] Speaker A: Oh, man. Yeah. [00:21:30] Speaker B: There would be no salvation. [00:21:31] Speaker A: No, it wouldn't. [00:21:33] Speaker B: Because if anybody was justified. [00:21:35] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:21:35] Speaker B: If anybody be justified, it's him. [00:21:38] Speaker A: That's. I said he was the perfect one for that because, boy, it couldn't have been me on the out of zap. [00:21:43] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:21:43] Speaker A: I had to zap the field. I'm just like, oh, really? You're gonna do this? No, I mean, but that's. Hey. [00:21:50] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:21:51] Speaker A: So he was the right one for. [00:21:54] Speaker B: Yeah. So the thing is, is that maybe you're struggling in your relationships right now or maybe it seems like some of your prayers are not being answered. Could it potentially be that you have an entitled mindset? That in a heart posture that needs to shift something you need to work. [00:22:09] Speaker A: On, like you said, a hot heart. [00:22:11] Speaker B: Sometimes we can get stuck in. We can get stuck in. In the mud of entitlement. And, you know, Jonah. Jonah got stuck. [00:22:21] Speaker A: Oh, man. Yeah. Yeah. John said, what am I gonna do this for them for? [00:22:27] Speaker B: Yeah, He. He. I really believe he felt like he was justified and entitled to his feelings about the people. [00:22:36] Speaker A: Well, he was. Yeah, he was. He was. [00:22:42] Speaker B: But was that the heart of God? No. [00:22:44] Speaker A: No. [00:22:46] Speaker B: So, you know, it's a really good thing for us to look at. I mean, if we're struggling in relationships or we're stuck in circumstances or situations, you know, could it perhaps be that we have an entitled mindset and it's not uncommon for Americans to feel entitled in some shape way or for him. [00:23:03] Speaker A: Right. [00:23:04] Speaker B: And even if you are entitled, who are you? Why, you know, why would you execute that entitlement? [00:23:11] Speaker A: And that goes like. When we do feel. Feel entitled or feel those type of ways, it can be turned around. And why? Because he gives us grace. And that's James 4, 6. It says, but he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble. [00:23:35] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:23:36] Speaker A: Okay. [00:23:36] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:23:37] Speaker A: So that means, like I said, it can all be used for something, but we just gotta be focused and pay attention and turn it around, you know? [00:23:47] Speaker B: This is true. [00:23:48] Speaker A: Yeah. So I had a couple of questions. So it was like one of them was, what does entitlement look like in our everyday lives as believers? I think we pretty much touched on a few of those family, work, church relationships, whatever, whatever. My other one is, how is entitlement? And I think we probably answered most of my questions that I had down. How is entitlement connected to pride? Okay. [00:24:17] Speaker B: Yeah, we hit that one. [00:24:18] Speaker A: Yeah. Three is what's the difference between, between having expectations versus having a spirit of entitlement? I think we talked about that with the blessings. [00:24:29] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:24:29] Speaker A: When we talk with the blessings now. [00:24:31] Speaker B: In, you know, we wanna. Entitlement is a pride. It's a pride posture where. But we have to be careful. We don't want to fall on the other ditch. So the other ditch would be where we don't walk in the authority and the power that God has given us and what he has for us. So, you know, we can fall in either side of the ditch. [00:24:54] Speaker A: Right, right. [00:24:55] Speaker B: We have to stay on that narrow, that narrow path there. So, you know, so sometimes people say, oh, I, I, you know, I'm just got this, like this humility that, that really is not God. It's not godly. [00:25:08] Speaker A: Right. [00:25:08] Speaker B: Where it's like, well, I don't want to press anything. I'm just going to just settle right here. That's not pleasing to God either. [00:25:15] Speaker A: No. [00:25:16] Speaker B: So let's exercise our power and authority. When we're dealing with darkness, do you. [00:25:23] Speaker A: Feel entitlement blocks us from being grateful? [00:25:30] Speaker B: Ask that question again. [00:25:31] Speaker A: Do you feel entitlement blocks us from being grateful? [00:25:36] Speaker B: I believe that the lack of gratitude. Perfect. Produces entitlement. [00:25:42] Speaker A: Wow. Wow. Okay. [00:25:45] Speaker B: Okay. Because when you're grateful, then you, you, you can't, you're not operating from entitlement. [00:25:53] Speaker A: Gotcha. Okay. [00:25:54] Speaker B: Everything's a gift. [00:25:55] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:25:57] Speaker B: So it's like, you know, when we do our, our morning prayers, it's starting out with that gra. That gratitude just for. That, the breath of life, just for a sound mind, body, just for waking up, just for the regulars. And see, people have a hard time just being grateful for the regulars. They, they feel entitled to the fact that their legs work. [00:26:19] Speaker A: Right. [00:26:19] Speaker B: That they can breathe. All of this is a gift. [00:26:22] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:26:25] Speaker B: So, you know, in gratitude, there's some revenues of heaven, and gratitude is one of them. Like, you know, when you have a, when you exercise gratitude, it's, it's revenue in heaven, same thing. You know, faith is revenue and heaven, you, that's how you get more things. You, you get things and things unlock through faith. [00:26:45] Speaker A: Right. [00:26:45] Speaker B: Gratitude's another one of another element of that. [00:26:48] Speaker A: Okay. [00:26:50] Speaker B: Gratitude and generosity. And people are entitled. They also, they fail to practice gratitude and they often will fail to practice generosity unless it serves them. [00:27:04] Speaker A: This is true. Yeah. And you see that a lot. You see it a lot. It's sad, but you see it a lot here lately. You see a lot going on. So what was that? [00:27:18] Speaker B: I wonder if you got a question and if you don't have a. I'm see if you have the. This question. If you don't have this question, you need to have it. So go ahead. What questions you got? [00:27:25] Speaker A: Okay. What practical steps can we take to shift from entitlement to gratitude and service? [00:27:36] Speaker B: Well, I think I already answered that. [00:27:37] Speaker A: Yeah, you did. Next one is how can leaders, whether in church or family or home, wherever, guard against entitlement creeping into their role? [00:27:50] Speaker B: How can. [00:27:52] Speaker A: How can leaders, whether in church, family, whatever, guard against entitlement creeping into their role? [00:28:01] Speaker B: Through service. [00:28:02] Speaker A: Through service. [00:28:04] Speaker B: So for instance, the guard is. It is. Are we talking about shepherding a. A great. [00:28:10] Speaker A: How can you stop that entitlement from creeping in? From not feeling entitled to certain things, Whether. Whatever position you hold, like for as a father, I could be like, I'm your dad. That's why you do so and so. But you see what I'm saying. Or because someone is the pastor. I'm the pastor of this church. [00:28:28] Speaker B: It's real simple. You know what? Having that servant. Servant leadership quality. You're a servant leader. So as long as you're a servant leader, you will with the right heart posture. I mean, how are you that entitlement? Like what are you entitled to Exactly. To serve. [00:28:52] Speaker A: Yeah. Okay. [00:28:54] Speaker B: You know, and of course there's many scriptures that probably would address that. [00:29:00] Speaker A: Yeah. You know, and then the last one I have is what happens when entitlement goes unchecked in a community or a nation. [00:29:09] Speaker B: Well, where do you answer that too? [00:29:11] Speaker A: You think so which part? [00:29:13] Speaker B: It was the. The mental picture of when. When one body part demands. [00:29:20] Speaker A: Oh, gotcha. Yeah, that's right. That's right. We did. Now what was the question? [00:29:25] Speaker B: Death is what happens when entitlement is. When entitlement is when one leg suck. [00:29:32] Speaker A: Up all the blood. [00:29:32] Speaker B: Yeah. Death is. Death is inevitable. Whenever 1. 1. 1 person or 1 part of the body is allowed supply and not required to release it to the rest, it's gonna have death. But the one thing you didn't. I don't feel like you really fully ask is what do you do do when you're in a deep relationship with someone that has entitlement issues? [00:30:01] Speaker A: Ouch. [00:30:02] Speaker B: That's a very important question because I guarantee you that there are people right now listening where they have entitled children, parents, bosses. [00:30:10] Speaker A: That's a good one. Yeah. [00:30:12] Speaker B: Maybe they're the ones that are being persecuted or suffering Right now because they're connected to people that are entitled. There may be spouses right now who have, you know, wives or husbands that have spouses that are. Feel like they're entitled to. Maybe it's sex. Maybe they feel like they're entitled to have sex as much as they want or not have sex at all. Like, what do you do when there's that entitlement? [00:30:38] Speaker A: You asking me? You the therapist? [00:30:40] Speaker B: Shoot, no, I'm just. [00:30:41] Speaker A: I didn't even think that's the question. [00:30:42] Speaker B: Yeah, I'm just like, what, what, what? [00:30:44] Speaker A: So what do you do? [00:30:45] Speaker B: No, I'm gonna ask you that question. [00:30:46] Speaker A: Look. Okay, ask the question again. [00:30:49] Speaker B: Okay, so what do you do when you. When you are in deep relationship or connection with someone that has an entitlement mentality or mindset? [00:30:59] Speaker A: Well, you know me, what I would do is I bring to the attention or ask about it. Challenge them on it. You know, that's what I would do. Bring the attention. [00:31:07] Speaker B: Why ask these guys. Listen, have you ever dealt with. Have you ever tried to just challenge somebody that it's entitled. How. How does that usually work out? [00:31:16] Speaker A: I don't know. [00:31:17] Speaker B: You know? [00:31:18] Speaker A: No, don't I bump his With. Yeah. Bumping his. Okay. Yeah. [00:31:22] Speaker B: It doesn't work out. [00:31:23] Speaker A: No, it doesn't. So what do you suggest you do then? [00:31:27] Speaker B: Well, you're going to need Holy Spirit to tell you to give you. [00:31:30] Speaker A: Well, see, I thought that but I didn't think the answer. I thought it was a different answer than that. [00:31:34] Speaker B: Of course this is not a test that. [00:31:36] Speaker A: But the Holy Spirit in prayer, like. [00:31:40] Speaker B: You definitely want to pray and you want to pray and. [00:31:43] Speaker A: But practical. What practical steps of things can be done? [00:31:47] Speaker B: Okay, 1 you1, you definitely need to pray. You need to search your. [00:31:53] Speaker A: But outside of the holy rolly things, I mean we get prayer. Most people pray and see the Holy Spirit. But like what steps would you give? [00:32:00] Speaker B: Well, I was going to break it down. All right, you cut me off. [00:32:04] Speaker A: My bad. [00:32:05] Speaker B: You are always start with prayer. [00:32:06] Speaker A: Okay. Yeah, always. I know that. I went. I know that. [00:32:09] Speaker B: And then of course you have to. First you need to spend some time and think about is there anything in me that is giving this a giving room for this to operate? [00:32:20] Speaker A: Okay. So like any. Anything that I'm doing that's causing this. [00:32:24] Speaker B: Yeah. Sometimes we may be enabling it and not knowing. [00:32:27] Speaker A: Okay. [00:32:28] Speaker B: Because we don't want to upset anyone. We don't want to make anybody don't. [00:32:32] Speaker A: Feel like going through something or we. [00:32:33] Speaker B: Don'T feel like dealing with it. So you have to Ask yourself, am I enabling this? Am I empowering? [00:32:38] Speaker A: I think we all do that at times, though. [00:32:40] Speaker B: Yeah, but I'm just saying you ask for practical things. [00:32:43] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:32:44] Speaker B: And, and then, you know, the other part of it is, is, you know, when you're dealing with difficult people, you usually just ask, you ask questions and you, it's those questions that you just leave those questions with them. Not for them to answer no or just a statement. And they may even accuse you of being passive aggressive. [00:33:06] Speaker A: But almost kind of like we said in the beginning, what do you bring to the table? Or what do you bring to this ministry? Or what do you offer kind of what it's talking about? [00:33:14] Speaker B: Or instead of like, you know, what do you, how do you see your role in this ministry? What. Tell me about your, how you feel like you, you would like to serve in this, in this situation or. And really try to get some feedback from them. [00:33:28] Speaker A: Gotcha. Okay. [00:33:31] Speaker B: But this is the reality, is that, you know, if you're dealing with churches, you gotta. Well, even in a family system, it all boils down to leadership. So who's, who's, who's the leader in the situation? The leader needs to address the situation. [00:33:46] Speaker A: Right. [00:33:47] Speaker B: So if you're having it with children, you know, you're gonna, the parents need to address it. If you're having it within a church, the church, the church needs to address it. And now don't get me wrong, sometimes leadership doesn't step up. And so it gets a little more dicey there. And that's why I give it back to the Holy Spirit, because there's no. I, this is my belief. There's no cookie cutters in heaven. So. Yeah, Americans love cookie cutters. [00:34:18] Speaker A: Of course. Yeah. [00:34:20] Speaker B: So you, you need to know, like, you really do need Holy Spirit to like, give you revelation how to address this situation. [00:34:28] Speaker A: Gotcha. Now, what if leadership don't stake, don't step in. [00:34:33] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:34:34] Speaker A: And take charge of that deal? [00:34:35] Speaker B: You're going to need Holy Spirit. [00:34:37] Speaker A: So. [00:34:37] Speaker B: Okay, you're gonna need Holy Spirit to lead you through that. But this is how we do know we are to operate when we're dealing with humanity. We want to deal with humanity in love and humility and in. Those are the ways we want to deal. But we got to understand what love is and at the same time, not empower people to abuse. [00:35:01] Speaker A: Oh, wow. Say it again. Not empower people to abuse. Okay. [00:35:04] Speaker B: Because sometimes when we throw that love, love and that kindness and that gentleness that at people, they think that they have to become a doormat. [00:35:11] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:35:11] Speaker B: And then what you're doing is, is that maybe the person that you're being kind towards has some. Has some demons. They have some bad company, as I call it. And I said it before, demons, they will take. It's. They'll take love and they'll chew on it like a stick of gum. [00:35:26] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:35:26] Speaker B: Or a Tic Tac. And they just think if they find it hilarious. [00:35:30] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:35:30] Speaker B: It's like, oh, look, you know, we. We've done this to her and she still just keeps throwing it at us. [00:35:37] Speaker A: Right? [00:35:37] Speaker B: Yeah, it's real sweet. So. But where do we always start when it comes to entitlement? We first have to get the. The log out of our own eye before we look at the spec in our neighbor's eye. So let's work on dealing with our own issues first and foremost and making sure we're a loving human discerning when demonic principalities are influencing and working, practicing power and authority over the darkness. Because we're warriors. [00:36:06] Speaker A: Yes, we are. [00:36:07] Speaker B: All right, so. [00:36:09] Speaker A: All right, party people, party people. Sacred warriors. [00:36:13] Speaker B: Yes. [00:36:15] Speaker A: Thank y' all for tapping in. Please, like, subscribe, share. That's the best way to get us out there. Share, share. Tell a friend and tell a friend friend. All our info should be down below or up above. Follow us on Facebook. The Secret Life Podcast. Instagram the Secret Life Podcast. Tick tock. The Sacred Life Podcast. Almost everything is the Sacred Life podcast except for Twitter. Twitter is the Sacred Life PC. All right, so until next time, Live Life Sacred Peace. [00:36:46] Speaker B: Shalom. [00:36:48] Speaker A: Living the life. The sacred, Sacred.